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Lilith in Partner's House | Synastry House Overlays

Lilith in partner's house : Synastry house overlays in Astrology

Lilith in partner’s 1st house:

In its most positive expression, Lilith is a source of courage and individuality to the 1st house person. With Lilith’s influence, 1st house can explore their creative talents, embrace a more confident attitude and express their identity more freely. Lilith may encourage them to rebel in some way, and get rid of any shame and fear concerning their looks/identity. There is a strong, lustful and primitive attraction between them, especially if Lilith sits close to the Ascendant.

On the other hand, if Lilith energy is not handled well in the synastry chart, Lilith may be obsessed with 1st house person in a superficial way. In this case, there may be a lot of selfishness, jealousy and drama involved.

Lilith in partner’s 2nd house:

With this synastry overlay, there is a potential for 2nd house person to turn the raw Lilith energy into something productive and tangible for themselves. At its best, Lilith can inspire 2nd house to pursue their worldly desires, as well as improve their self esteem. There is usually a lot of focus on physical affection and sensual indulgence between them.

If Lilith is negatively aspected, issues such as jealousy, debts or excessive indulgence may arise. In some cases, Lilith might be using 2nd house person for their material/selfish needs, or see them as their possession.

Lilith in partner’s 3rd house:

Lilith’s words are seductive, and they invoke a deep primal part of the 3rd house’s mind. Lilith- being a rebellious force, has a potential to encourage 3rd house to get rid of their anxieties and intellectual blocks, so that they can express their needs and desires more freely. If Lilith energy is handled well in the synastry chart, they feel that they can talk about anything with each other, without the constraints of judgement or guilt. 3rd house can gain new and exciting perspectives here.

If it has negative aspects to it, Lilith might bring a lot of verbal arguments and negative/rebellious ideas instead.

Lilith in partner’s 4th house:

This synastry overlay can be a double-edged sword. 4th house is our ‘’home’’- it is an intimate, nurturing and emotional house, and Lilith is an unapologetically impulsive and chaotic force when it feels constrained.

In its highest expression, Lilith person can help 4th house to liberate themselves from their negative attachments to the past, such as traumas, fears and codependent behaviors.

However, not everyone will find someone's Lilith energy welcoming in their ‘’home’’ space. An afflicted Lilith may feel rather erratic and intimidating to the 4th house person. In this case, relationship is usually turbulent, instinctive, but sexually extraordinary (especially if Lilith sits close to the IC point). Lilith may also try to break 4th house person’s boundaries or stir up drama in their home/family.

Lilith in partner’s 5th house:

This synastry overlay brings a carefree, spontaneous, flirtatious type of energy to the synastry chart. Lilith person usually encourages 5th house to seek more unbridled pleasure, freedom and adventure in their life. Lilith in partner’s 5th house can bring a lot of versatility and thrill to the connection, especially in the bedroom.

If there are negative aspects to Lilith however, there may be issues such as jealousy, excessive indulgence, affairs or emotional turmoil. Lilith may also push 5th house into some dangerous activities.

Lilith in partner’s 6th house:

A positive Lilith energy can drive 6th house person to organize their work, health and habits. They can also learn to be less rigid, and more open and flexible about their daily routine in general. If the 6th house person feels that they are stuck in a rut, Lilith can push them to take more risks and initiative, which might be helpful.

On the other hand, a negatively aspected Lilith may have an opposite effect- destabilizing 6th house person’s daily routine, coercing them to take unnecessary risks, etc.

Lilith in partner’s 7th house:

This is a somewhat tricky overlay. There is a potential for Lilith to bring new perspectives to 7th house person, like having a deep emotional connection without losing the sense of individuality. Lilith here may also enrich sexuality and communication. However, this all depends on how well the Lilith energy is handled in the synastry chart.

In some cases, 7th house person may find Lilith to be emotionally unavailable or chaotic, meanwhile Lilith person may feel constrained in the relationship. When there is a lot of negative aspects to Lilith, this can represent lack of boundaries, codependency, manipulations, or affairs. Lilith may also destabilize 7th house person’s other relationships as well.

Lilith in partner’s 8th house:

There is a dark, seductive and mysterious undertone to this connection. With Lilith’s influence, 8th house can draw power from learning and accepting their shadow side. This can represent getting rid of fears, traumas, and expressing their deepest desires. Lilith and 8th house person can create an intimate bond through raw, unbridled passion.

However, this kind of intense energy is not everyone’s cup of tea. In some cases, it may feel intimidating rather than sexy to the 8th house person. If Lilith is negatively aspected in the natal or synastry chart, there may be secrets, lack of boundaries and dark psychology involved.

Lilith in partner’s 9th house:

If both Lilith and 9th house person is open and accepting, there is a potential here to expand each other’s minds. Lilith person’s ideas about religion/spirituality may come off too rebellious and intense, but 9th house might get attracted to their unique understanding of life.

Sometimes, it may be too pessimistic and dark for the 9th house person. Especially if Lilith is negatively aspected, they may introduce 9th house to potentially harmful beliefs or manipulate them.

Lilith in partner’s 10th house:

Some of Lilith’s positive aspects are about courage, independence and assertiveness, so it may be a good influence in the house of career. With it, 10th house person can seek to achieve a greater success and fame, especially if they feel stuck in their career. Lilith can influence them to be more competitive, fierce and take risks, which can be beneficial.

If Lilith is negatively aspected in the synastry/natal chart, this can be rather dangerous. As a result, 10th house person might take unnecessary risks, lose their reputation, have an affair at work environment, etc. Lilith may also be in the relationship purely due to selfish interests.

Lilith in partner’s 11th house:

If both partners can accept each other for who they are, this can be a very freeing and adventurous connection. A positive Lilith energy may introduce 11th house to new ideas and friendships, and encourage them to liberate themselves from societal expectations, etc.

However, if Lilith is negatively aspected, Lilith might be an energy vampire instead. They might stir up drama in 11th house person’s social circle, introduce them to negative people, or try to keep 11th house all to themselves.

Lilith in partner’s 12th house:

This is a very delicate house- representing the most hidden parts of our psyche, therefore partner’s Lilith energy might be too intense and provoking here. Lilith may help 12th house to bring their subconscious patterns to light, or do the opposite and evoke more fear. This depends on how well Lilith energy is being handled in the synastry and natal chart.

Lilith in partner’s 12th house may represent emotional outbursts, manipulations and obsessions. Since Lilith is being hidden in the 12th house, it can represent a secretive relationship or affair. It is also the house of self-undoing, so Lilith’s presence here may bring out self destructive patterns of the 12th house person.

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1 Comment

Denisa K.
Denisa K.
Jul 06

What if my partner and I have Lilith in Scorpio? Mine is in his 12th house, his is in my 6th house.

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