Since the most important planets in synastry are the Moon, Venus and Mars (You can read more about best synastry aspects in relationships here) - Pluto is a planet that is overlooked when it comes to love relationships, and wrongfully so.
Pluto- the Ruler of Scorpio, is an intimidating force. It is a planet of transformation, death, sex, money and power. In Roman mythology, Pluto is the God of Underworld.
Yes, Pluto is full of shadows. Unlike Venus, it is clearly not a light and fluffy romance kind of planet.
So How does Pluto feel in Synastry? Deep. Intriguing. Passionate. Obsessive. Even life changing.
If you keep asking to yourself, ‘’Why am I so deeply attracted to this person?’’ They may have a strong Pluto aspect to your personal planets (Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars), creating an otherworldly pull that is hard to describe.
Here we are going to look at what happens when a person’s Pluto is interacting with other person’s planets, in order to help you understand your synastry chart in depth.
Pluto- Sun Aspects in Synastry (conjunction, sextile, trine, opposition, square)
The Sun and Pluto meet and the eyes are locked immediately. The Pluto is drawn to the Sun’s positive attitude and charm, like moth to the flame. As they get to know each other more, the Sun person gets more and more intrigued by the mysterious depths of Pluto, and compelled to explore deeper.
The shadow side of the Sun and Pluto aspects: Drama and power struggles. Why?
Sun in astrology represents our Ego, and Pluto wants to transform everything it touches. They both want to assert dominance over each other, a fight that Pluto wins by letting Sun ‘’feel’’ in control but in reality, Pluto dominates Sun by working in the shadows. Therefore, Pluto square Sun is the ultimate ''clash of the egos'' and usually characterized by paranoia and impulsiveness from both partners.
This level of intense attraction is most felt with the Sun in conjunction Pluto. With the opposition and square, there are more ego driven conflicts than anything else. When Sun is sextile or trine to Pluto, the effect is less intense and dramatic.
Pluto-Moon Aspects in Synastry (conjunction, sextile, trine, opposition, square)
Both the Moon and Pluto represent shadows and depths of a personality. When the Moon person meets Pluto, there is a deep emotional pull towards one another. Both of them wants to get to know each other to the core.
With Moon conjunct Pluto, they often have long hours of conversations about psychological, emotional, spiritual topics. The Moon person wants to pour their heart and soul to the Pluto.
On the other hand, the Moon and Pluto may end up triggering each other’s wounds. Both of them may get too possessive and obsessive over each other. This is especially true with the hard aspects, such as Moon opposite Pluto or Moon square Pluto.
Moon sextile/trine Pluto is sexually and emotionally less intense than a conjunction or opposition, however it is easier to cooperate. Both find each other's company very unique and fulfilling.
Pluto-Venus Aspects in Synastry (conjunction, sextile, trine, opposition, square)
With Pluto conjunct Venus, primitive sexual attraction between them is so strong that when Pluto touches her, Venus feels like a fish out of water. Venus finds Pluto person very mysterious, whereas Pluto enjoys light and soft energy of Venus. In this connection, Pluto may try to win over Venus's heart by deep emotional conversations. Even if their personalities may be different, this aspect indicates a strong pull towards each other.
Pluto-Venus aspects often create a relationship where there are a lot of lessons to learn and things to transform. Therefore it is most commonly found in karmic soulmates.
The reason for this is that with the intense passion comes the obsession. Especially with hard aspects (Venus opposite or square Pluto) love can turn to hate very quickly. They may get stuck in a push and pull cycle until Pluto lets go of its possessive instincts, and Venus person works on their insecurities.
In lighter aspects such as Venus sextile/trine Pluto, drama is less intense, self expression becomes easier and this gives room for the relationship to flow.
Pluto-Mars Aspects in Synastry (conjunction, sextile, trine, opposition, square)
Both of these planets have aggressive, assertive, passionate energies. When Pluto conjuncts Mars, sexual connection is almost too overwhelming, but also very difficult to detach from.
Pluto-Mars aspects also may indicate a karmic tie. The level of need to control and seduce each other is so strong that it often creates a volatile, obsessive relationship. This is often seen in Pluto opposite Mars, where there is a constant push-pull dynamic.
Especially with Pluto square Mars- Manipulation, mind games and secrets are common. In some cases, they may get aggressive and abusive towards each other, or quickly become enemies after a heated argument.
In order for this relationship to grow, both Pluto and Mars need to be honest towards each other. Both should recognize and work towards healing the destructive behaviors that they trigger within each other.
Needless to say, Mars and Pluto is full of emotional and physical intensity, but with the help of Pluto’s transformative powers and Mars’s strength, there is a huge potential for personal growth.